That’s a pretty peaceful view, no? The same property also has big mountain views and lots of sky, as well as a great old farmhouse that’s in need of some updating.
And here’s where the discussion of people begins.
The people who rented the house didn’t respect the place. The people who own it took a lot of time and trouble to clean up after them when they finally left. That’s not an uncommon situation, though it’s a sad one. It was really stressful for the sellers.
Real estate is always a charged thing - there’s big money involved for both buyers and sellers, there’s the emotional attachment that goes with a home. I get it.
But it doesn’t have to be an angst fest. It can be better.
Here’s how:
Treat people the way you want to be treated.
We all know about this rule. And if we remembered it, we’d eliminate 99% of the unpleasantness we encounter when dealing with each other.
Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Yes, some people are not trustworthy. And caution is wise. But immediate distrust is an overreaction, and creates an adversarial relationship from the jump. It’s unpleasant.
Think before you speak.
The first thought in your head doesn’t necessarily need to come out of your mouth. Maybe there’s a better way to phrase it. Or maybe it’s just not constructive. Give it a second and think.
Respect other people’s time, feelings, and property.
This one’s pretty easy to understand, but so many folks seem to have trouble with it.
Be honest.
Be as good as your word. Be reliable. Be trustworthy. Be how you want others to be. And that honestly includes admitting when you’re wrong or made a mistake.
I’m sure there are many others, but these are, for me, the basics. They’d put out any number of fires that crop up during the course of a real estate transaction, and probably make life, in general, a lot more pleasant.
This is how I do business, and the standard I set for myself. Sometimes it’s a struggle (particularly, for me, the “think before you speak” part), but I never stop trying.
If you’re noticing that other people seem to have forgotten, double down. Try even harder. I have hopes that our efforts will, in time, draw out the best in others, too.