Safety First
I had a text conversation with a buyer this morning that made me realize there have been changes in the world of real estate that need to be discussed.
A person texted, saying her name was “Sheila” (it wasn’t- no need to use the name she really gave me), and that she wanted to see a house I am representing.
We set a day and time, and then I asked her how she planned to buy, IF she bought - cash, a loan, or owner financing? All three are an option with this particular house.
She responded it would be cash, and there would be an inspection, but that we should take it one step at a time.
This step, I replied, was for my security. I asked that she provide a proof of funds with her name and address, but her account number scratched out. That would be required for any offer anyway, but it also would make me feel more confident meeting a total stranger.
Here’s why:
I have no way to know who this person is. They didn’t even call - they just texted. They provided no last name. This is a vacant house. It’s isolated.
I am expected to meet someone I do not know, whose last name I don’t even know, at a vacant house, show them around inside, even the basement.
The last time I did this, five adults piled out of the car, and I had a momentary “what have I done?” reaction.
The day before, two cars with four people pulled in to meet me, instead of the couple I expected. It’s happening too often, and even though it’s all turned out alright, it’s made me realize I’m becoming uncomfortable.
So I have resolved to start being more careful. I’m doing more than simply making sure someone knows where I’m going. Asking for something any serious buyer would have to provide anyway seems a simple way to at least identify who I’m talking to.
But Sheila was offended. “I don’t know you, either. And I’m not sending that kind of information over the internet. I’ll find someone else to show it to me.”
I didn’t bother pointing out that my name, phone number and address are all very public on every listing.
I said that was fine, and we closed the conversation.
I was a bit surprised that a woman wouldn’t understand the need for some security measures. At the very least, she could have asked what else she could do, if she didn’t want to send a proof of funds.
This may have cost me a few hundred dollars in commission. But I’m perfectly fine with it. I don’t feel unsafe.
Safety is becoming a major discussion among Realtors. In a field where we work on our own, meeting the public in private spaces, assaults have been going up. A quick search on the internet finds assaults and murders all over the country, and even in bucolic spots in Canada. One Realtor was sexually assaulted during an open house, and the entire thing was caught on video.
We are told to meet first time clients in a public space. But in a rural area like ours, that’s not always possible. I have been doing this work for more than a decade, and I’ve been fortunate. But I’m not pressing my luck anymore. And if buyers won’t understand, I’m alright with them refusing to work with me.